What Owning A Home Would Mean To My Family

By Monica Rowl

Eighteen years ago, a child was born to parents who were young, unmarried and struggling. As a result, the mother became government-dependent while the father worked at every available opportunity.

Within three years, the couple had already decided that the future didn't look like a good outcome, meaning that they would separate, remarry and begin new families. During the separation process, the parents decided that it would be best if the grandmother took on full responsibility of three young girls. I am one of those girls and these are the reasons why owning a home is an essential part of my goals and dreams after college.

Without hesitation, she took us in like we were her very own. She must have realized that living with her was the best way and maybe the only way a decent life could be provided for us. My father started a new job working for a major trucking company that kept him on the road day-in-day-out; while my mother married a man who cared less about respecting her and her children--in other words, he exposed her to "street life."

In the years later, Grandmother began teaching us how to take on responsibility of cooking, cleaning, taking care of each other and doing other daily tasks. In the spring of 1991, my grandmother became very ill. She had diabetes, lost one of her kidneys, and she received another, which later failed. This left her sister to put her life on hold to care for all four of us. This special aunt, who I look to as a mother, is the person whom I thought to have had the hardest responsibility thus far. She was a mother, nurse, and schoolteacher. Without a second thought, she took care of us, making sure that we went to school and visited my granny in the hospital. As a matter of fact, she left her Garland home to move with us in Crest "A" Apartments.

Meanwhile, when Granny got home, we began to learn how to give her injections and all of her medications. As she began to heal, she and my aunt decided that it would be best if we moved into a house of our own. With this BIG transition, we were able to move into a cheap rental home. It started to fall apart, so we moved back into apartments.

Later on, we found another rented home where we lived for about 2 ½ years but moved because the wood rats and other bad things were destroying the house. My grandmother then decided to live in a home closer to the schools. At the time, we had no reliable transportation. She didn't like it because the owner didn't want to make the repairs that he promised. Overall, our family had been unsuccessful in locating a stable home.

Finally, she contacted people who helped her find a home through HUD. By the grace of God, she was able to find a house that she could truly say was hers. Now we are living in a home that granny is purchasing! Even though it is hard for her because she is on a fixed income, she has always taught us that God will make a way when there seems to be no way. We are more than grateful for the home that we have been living in for 7 ½ years.

Homeownership is so important to me even though I realize I still have to finish college and get a well-paying job. I want to be able to have a happy family and be able to provide for my children, whenever that time comes. It would mean so much to me just being able to say I have a home, and I can do whatever I want to do in it, knowing that I am the owner, not a renter.

I want to thank you Mike along with each staff member for allowing me to see the importance of becoming a homeowner. Before my arrival here, I did not know exactly what I would gain, however, now I am more than thankful for such a wonderful experience. For it was through this experience that I am able to go out and tell others of the importance of owning a home. I am overwhelmed by the kindheartedness of each staff member and each warm, embracing and caring spirit. Because of this internship, I am able to understand more clearly, the importance of having your own home and knowing that help is right there… "it's just one phone call away!"

Content Archived: July 22, 2011